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Dealing with your Critical Inner Voice

We all have the voice inside our heads that says we aren’t funny, good looking, clever, ‘normal’…we ALL have it, even the people around you that you think have it all together; they don’t. they have their voice too…

Our critical voice is a shadow side – the side we all have sometimes whispers and sometimes shouts at us that we aren’t good enough. It comes from all our insecurities, worry and anxiety; it stop us being fully ‘us’ and limits us enjoying life to the full.

So – how do we lessen the critical voice?

The first thing is to recognise it is there: whispering our faults to us. 

The second thing is to note the lies it tell us: keep a list of what your critical voice tells you so you can realise how often it limits you.

The third thing: write the opposite to that thought. 

So, for me, my voice tells me I am not clever enough; the opposite is that I have GCSEs and A levels. Therefore, that is a lie.

Keep writing all the opposites to the critical thought:

Reality verses the lie.

Fourthly, read the truth daily. Put them up in your bedroom. Repeat them to yourself.

Lastly – practise it. Every time that lie comes into your head; tell your critical voice to be quiet and repeat the real truth to it.

Let’s make our critical voices quieten down.